If you think about it, relationships are never over. They may take a different form, certainly. But once we're in, or have, a relationship with someone, it remains, in one way or another, forever.

Now, try this on. If the aforementioned hypothesis is true, then we cannot, with any certainty, predict the outcome of any relationship based on its past or even its current form. It's future is truly empty. Anything could happen. It might undermine our illusion of security but also tickles our love of the unknown and the energy that brings.

Have any friends you don't see or talk to for years and then when you do its like you've been in communication that whole time?

Ever think a romantic relationship was over just to have it turn around unexpectedly and be great?

Ever think a romantic relationship was going really well just to have it turn around and "end" (take an different form) unexpectedly?

Generally, when we think something is over, we pay no attention to it and don't take any actions towards it. What if we stay open? What if we simply adopt the perspective that, "It ain't over till it's over...and maybe not even then."? I wonder what kind of attention and actions we might give to it.

EXPERIMENT: Just for the next 24 hours, ask yourself this question; "What in my life have I decided is over so that I don't pay any attention to it? And then ask, "What if I'm inaccurate about that?" You don't have to DO anything. Just ask.

Helen Keller:

"Security is a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure.    Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing."